Are you really, who you are?

Lately, it seems like many of my gal pals are going through a rough patch in relationships.

And all of a sudden, I became the Love Guru. haha.

I am not an expert in relationships. The irony of it is that i am so bad at it that my experience from my mistakes makes me understand what my gal pals are going through right now.

Believe it or not, I even have acquaintances hailing all the way from Mainland, asking me if she should own up to her feelings to this boy whom she has been harbouring a crush on and another asking if she should go visit this boyfriend of hers in another city even though they are on the verge on breaking up.

Really. Almost everyday, people tell me mostly about their relationship problems and I'll just listen them out and give them my own life's wise words to ponder upon. I get calls in wee mornings, flooded emails and my msn window is constantly open. I have been asked many times to have an alternative email or blog to hear their woes about Love and the opposite sex.

Maybe I am just easy to talk to, that's all.

Sometimes, i really have to laugh and say, i am just an ordinary girl who don't really know better, honestly. All i know is, never ever change yourself for someone else because in the end, this person isn't gonna love you for whom you really are but what he or she thought you to be.

Many of them, as they share with me, change themselves into this mould of being the perfect One, hoping that this will hook the guy for infinity. Dressing differently, speaking girlishly, looking intellectually. I say, sweeties, it ain't gonna work. I have been there, done that, failed horribly and have learnt the hard way out.

My heart goes all out to the girl who forsake herself just for a guy. It is indeed misleading the guy which when crunch time comes, you can't really blame him for being resentful at you when your real self emerge. 

I say, if he can't accept you being the doofus you sometimes are, if he can't accept your honest mistakes from the past, if he can't embrace your uniqueness and your individuality, then don't make excuses for him and just get out of there. 

Always, always believe in your self worth. Reserve some dignity for yourself. You will enjoy life much much more.

Trust me. :)